It's not about "sensitivity." Even after apologizing, abuse left scars, Neuroscience News reports. Instead of seeking retribution, survivors must separate to recover.
You were physically or emotionally abusive
Being a parent doesn't justify constant negativity. Despite your disagreement, adult children need room to choose their own path. Unexpected criticism, especially from them, kills relationships.
You constantly criticize their choices
Bypassing their unambiguous no demonstrates deep disdain. Adults choose their contact, holiday companions, and more. Demanding your way assures that they'll retreat.
You refuse to respect their boundaries
Openly labeling one sibling the good one causes lifelong bitterness. Children need unconditional love, not competition for your love.
You play favorites among your children
Apologize for the specific harm you caused. No accountability, even for years past, gives the message that their sorrow doesn't matter.
You never truly apologized for past mistakes
Watching someone self-destruct is heartbreaking. To maintain their sanity, adult children must frequently withdraw.
You re addicted to substances and refuse to get help
Criticizing their parents in front of the grandkids is disrespectful and chaotic unless there is abuse. Adult children have every right to defend their authority.
You undermine their parenting in front of their kids
You tire others with your theatrics and craving for attention. Adult children want fun holidays and gatherings, not emotional management.
You make every family get-together about you